People have long sought ways to please their lovers, often taking extreme measures like altering their bodies to less drastic actions like paying a telephone psychic $5 a minute to find out what their partner wants, likes or needs. It seems too easy that you could just look at a lover’s astrological natal chart and know what’s going to please them, but really it is that easy.
All the energies present at the moment we take our first breath become a part of our astrological make-up, not so different from our biological make-up. Flesh and bones, our bodies are all unique. From Aries to Pisces, our intimate and spiritual needs are all unique. By using a lot of intuitive understanding and a little ancient wisdom you begin to see that we all need the same things just in very different ways. A practice that has been around as long as there have been humans, astrology serves as a useful tool when wanting to invigorate relationships and intimacy, giving us an opportunity to see ourselves and others as all connected.
When beginning the practice of astrology many people stop before they really get started because of the complexity of it all. Astrology is set up on a system of Rulerships, which means that each planet presides over a certain sign, while each sign corresponds to different things and situations i.e. Mars rules Aries, Aries rules action. With 10 planets (the Sun & Moon are called planets to keep things simple) and 12 signs in constant motion, there are endless possibilities in the realm of astrological expression. In order to use astrology you mustn’t get overwhelmed or even feel like you have to understand it completely. Whether you realize it or not, you already have an intuitive understanding of astrology.
The following four steps are simple ways in which you can bring new levels of intimacy and connection to your love life.
STEP ONE: Understand Yourself. Understanding of your own astrological make-up is essential. You must know yourself intimately to share yourself intimately. It’s a good idea to get a natal chart (a map of the planetary placements at the time of your birth) and meet with a professional astrologer. There are also numerous web sites and books made for people wanting to look deeper into themselves through astrology. And even if you just use the Rulership chart included here, you are on your way to understanding yourself through the elements.
Astrologers, books and websites can enlighten you as to why you need clean sheets and a tidy house before you can relax and enjoy a sexual encounter, explaining that Saturn (responsibility and discipline) is ruling your 8th House (sexual expression). This and all planetary placements represent lessons for our spiritual evolution, learned through interactions with others, the environment, and our own awareness. Astrology is often the key unlocking that which we were previously aware, but didn’t understand.
STEP TWO: Understand Your Partner. Just as you can come to have a true understanding of Self through astrology, you can gain this same insight into those with whom you relate. If your partner is inclined to be reserved in bed (maybe it’s that Saturn in the 8th house person) you can recognize and utilize the energy that rules their sexual nature to make them feel more comfortable and connected.
Considering the elements is an essential part of making astrology work for you. For example, someone with a strong Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) influence is likely to enjoy reading erotica to her mate in bed, while someone ruled by Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) may want the spontaneous quickies in dangerous places. Two lovers, one with strong Earth influence (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) and one with strong Water influence (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) may create virtual mud within their love life, or they may nurture (Water) and ground (Earth) each other in a way that makes true romantic bliss is possible. Knowing the inclinations of your partner on an intimate, spiritual level can help you give them what they need without them having to ask- what a gift!
STEP THREE: Use the Moon! Ruling our emotional nature and daily tendencies, the Moon is most like a body function. It reminds us all that we humans are prone to moodiness, inconsistent behavior and sometimes we just can’t help it. Arguments can be avoided or easily resolved when you are tuned into lunar energy, making more time and energy available for lovemaking and intimate encounters.
Focusing on the part of the body that each particular Moon sign represents can increase sensuality and awareness. For example, if the Moon is in Aries you might want to give your lover a temple massage or kiss longer than usual, as Aries rules the head.
Keeping track of Moon signs and how they relate to you and your partners own astrological make-up can help keep things fresh as the Moon changes signs every two and a half days. Obviously there are many calendars you can buy and there are no shortages of the websites listing such information.
STEP FOUR: Stock up! Astrology is more biological than you might realize. Each sign responds to environmental and external factors in unique ways. Whether you are planning or just want to be prepared for a romantic interlude, some essential items include….
Candles/Pillows/Blankets – Get colors that your and your partner respond to on an astrological level, or a color that represents an element you’d like to bring to your intimate unions.
Oil – Simple massage oil can be astrologically correct by adding essential oils or aromas that correspond to the signs.
Music – Astrology works through a system of harmonics created by each planet, much the same way all musical instruments have their own unique sound. Instead of broadcasting through a radio, planetary harmonics are expressed by us everyday in spectacular and beautiful ways. Just as the person we love can make our heart sing, music helps us to transcend time and space, allowing that love to flow through our bodies.
Imagination – Share your fantasies and dreams. Be creative and open yourself to wonders of the body and spirit connection.